We are in the middle of a clashing cycle--Allen and I. My firstborn and I are so much alike that the house gets way too small for the both of us. It happens ever three to four months or so and I try to be the adult and stop the cycle, but so far have been unsuccessful. Anyone know what I mean? The boy cannot stop "ruling the roost". He tells his brother what to do, he tells me what to do, he argues with everyone about everything! Then he yells and tells me to stop arguing with him--but he started it! (I know that what I just said sounds extremely juvenile, but that is what I'm thinking.)
So here's the deal. I know that often we treat those closest to us far worse than anyone else. I hate that. I want to change that, but I fail each and every day. I just wish I could glimpse into the future and see what Allen will be like at 25 years old. I want to speak with this adult Allen and see what he remembers of me. I see a picture of his memory of me as a big fire-breathing dragon of a mother that only yells and screams and barks out orders. "Hurry Up", "What do you say?", Hello! Is anyone listening to me!" etc. etc. etc! How horrible.
He brings me to the brink of throwing in the towel. I feel as if there is no way I can raise a sane adult with morals and values if the very person that brought him into this world is the very person that cannot interact rationally with him.
I know this is all extremely normal--at least that is what I hear from close friends, but it shouldn't be. Should it?
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Friday, January 30, 2009
What Charlie Says: January 2009
I have begun to write down some of the things that Charlie has been saying. As most of you know, his nickname is "Mr. Obvious" from the Bob and Tom Show. Not only does he make very obvious observations, but the observations have nothing to do with what is around him at the moment. We are often left scratching our heads and then Larry and I look at each other and nod. "Yep, that was another one to write down." Here they are so far:
"I took a little bite of peach for my tummy to eat because I have teeth in my tummy." This came out during the week that Allen was losing his first tooth.
"Before we eat fish, we have to chop off their fins first" This came out while Charlie was in the shower with Larry (yeah, I don't know either).
"I know everything but I didn't know Wal-mart has chocolate bars!" We don't go to Wal-Mart often, obviously.
“Do you know why I keep my eyes open when I sleep at night? Because when I close my eyes, my eyebrows will get red and hot!” He blurted this out as Larry was reading Dr. Seuss's "I Can Read With My Eyes Shut".
I hope you enjoyed this installment as much as Larry and I did. Later!
"I took a little bite of peach for my tummy to eat because I have teeth in my tummy." This came out during the week that Allen was losing his first tooth.
"Before we eat fish, we have to chop off their fins first" This came out while Charlie was in the shower with Larry (yeah, I don't know either).
"I know everything but I didn't know Wal-mart has chocolate bars!" We don't go to Wal-Mart often, obviously.
“Do you know why I keep my eyes open when I sleep at night? Because when I close my eyes, my eyebrows will get red and hot!” He blurted this out as Larry was reading Dr. Seuss's "I Can Read With My Eyes Shut".
I hope you enjoyed this installment as much as Larry and I did. Later!
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Our family of 5
How weird does that sound... "Our family of 5" I have suddenly realized (okay, I must be slow--Allen is 6 years old) that Larry and I are parents to 3 children. Seriously! We are responsible to raise them to adulthood in one piece physically, academically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. How crazy is that!
We have been "growing up" a lot the past few months. The most obvious grower has been Selah. Allen has physically been growing like a weed, although I don't know how when he eats the same 3 things and nothing else. He has also just lost his first tooth on Friday. He is now reading and with that comes my realization that I cannot "fake" read things anymore. He is also beginning to ask the harder questions, of a spiritual nature. We had to deal with Nanny and Poppy's dog dying. With that came the questions of heaven and how do we get there. This is very exciting for me, but the daunting task of guiding him spiritually has hit me as I try to find simplified explanations for things without the "religious jargon". Charlie also has begun to grow up quite a bit. He has suddenly grown out of his 3T pants and seems to be shrinking his 4T shirts as well. He has also begun to read and wants so much to be in school like his brother. I have finally relented and he is so happy to work. He says the darndest things and I have begun a file on my computer of the goofball observations he has come up with. He is definately my "thinker". Time will tell how Selah turns out. Right now, she seems to physically resemble Charlie the most, but her temperament is like Allen (not really a good thing as he is very headstrong--like his mother, Larry says).
This blog will be my attempt at recording these "best days of our lives". I hope you enjoy them.
We have been "growing up" a lot the past few months. The most obvious grower has been Selah. Allen has physically been growing like a weed, although I don't know how when he eats the same 3 things and nothing else. He has also just lost his first tooth on Friday. He is now reading and with that comes my realization that I cannot "fake" read things anymore. He is also beginning to ask the harder questions, of a spiritual nature. We had to deal with Nanny and Poppy's dog dying. With that came the questions of heaven and how do we get there. This is very exciting for me, but the daunting task of guiding him spiritually has hit me as I try to find simplified explanations for things without the "religious jargon". Charlie also has begun to grow up quite a bit. He has suddenly grown out of his 3T pants and seems to be shrinking his 4T shirts as well. He has also begun to read and wants so much to be in school like his brother. I have finally relented and he is so happy to work. He says the darndest things and I have begun a file on my computer of the goofball observations he has come up with. He is definately my "thinker". Time will tell how Selah turns out. Right now, she seems to physically resemble Charlie the most, but her temperament is like Allen (not really a good thing as he is very headstrong--like his mother, Larry says).
This blog will be my attempt at recording these "best days of our lives". I hope you enjoy them.
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